Many of us want deep intimate relationship with others. We long for shared connections and affections involving our whole body, senses and mind because intimacy is part of a good life. Why does such communion seem so elusive? The question invokes ideals built mostly on social influences and our past. To be unaware of how we conceive intimate relationship leads to treating our questionable beliefs as fact. Let’s look at some problems and then solutions. Continue reading Do you want intimate relationship? Try the truth
Understanding pain is vital if we wish to bring relief to useless suffering. To reduce useless pain is nurturing to love. But what does that actually mean?
We should understand two sources of suffering. Continue reading Understanding Pain Nurturing Love
“Who do you know who does not place a boundary around his love? We are afraid others will use us and that our desire for love makes us foolish. In deference to this fear, we try to be smart and use others in the name of love for our own ends. We become what we fear and keep things hidden from our mates, especially the secrets that would show our real thoughts and behaviors. Then Continue reading Love renounces all limits
“We live in a vastness much broader than our imagined limits and this includes our sexual beliefs. When we let go of our ideas of ‘self’, we are not bound to the limits of such an arbitrary ‘self’. That same ‘self’ would have an entirely different set of beliefs about intimate relationships if we grew up in a different culture with a different religion or system. In particular, the question is not what you would do in this or that circumstance, but what will you choose from the thousands of options available. This access to a greater variety of options from which to choose cannot guarantee an outcome that you want, but makes it so that you are not limited to the options that coincide with what you believe about yourself. We do not need to defer to an authority , an institution or a belief to go beyond the limits of our habits and try some new sexual beliefs. We may feel fear, but fear can be imagination ebbing and flowing in the silence. Is it fear based on a real danger or fear of doing something outside of what we have become accustomed?”
Excerpt: The Relevance of Kabir
“Humans are mortal. So are ideas. An idea needs propagation as much as a plant needs watering. Otherwise both will wither and die.”
― B.R. Ambedkar
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