Do you want intimate relationship? Try the truth

intimate relationshipMany of us want deep intimate relationship with others. We long for shared connections and affections involving our whole body, senses and mind because intimacy is part of a good life. Why does such communion seem so elusive? The question invokes ideals built mostly on social influences and our past. To be unaware of how we conceive intimate relationship leads to treating our questionable beliefs as fact. Let’s look at some problems and then solutions. Continue reading Do you want intimate relationship? Try the truth

Understanding Pain Nurturing Love

Understanding pain
When we mistake ideas for facts.

Understanding pain is vital if we wish to bring relief to useless suffering. To reduce useless pain is nurturing to love.  But what does that actually mean?

 

 

We should understand two sources of suffering. Continue reading Understanding Pain Nurturing Love

Love renounces all limits

Love“Who do you know who does not place a boundary around his love? We are afraid others will use us and that our desire for love makes us foolish. In deference to this fear, we try to be smart and use others in the name of love for our own ends. We become what we fear and keep things hidden from our mates, especially the secrets that would show our real thoughts and behaviors. Then Continue reading Love renounces all limits

Evolving sexual beliefs

sexual beliefs“We  live  in  a  vastness  much  broader  than  our  imagined  limits and this includes our sexual beliefs.  When  we  let  go  of  our  ideas  of ‘self’,  we  are  not  bound  to  the  limits  of  such  an  arbitrary  ‘self’.  That  same  ‘self’  would  have  an entirely  different  set  of  beliefs  about intimate relationships if  we  grew  up  in  a  different  culture  with  a  different  religion  or system.  In  particular,  the  question  is  not  what  you  would  do  in  this  or  that  circumstance,  but  what will  you  choose  from  the  thousands  of  options  available.  This  access  to  a  greater  variety  of options  from  which  to  choose  cannot  guarantee  an  outcome  that  you  want,  but  makes  it  so  that you  are  not  limited  to  the  options  that  coincide  with  what  you  believe  about  yourself.  We  do  not need  to  defer  to  an  authority ,  an  institution  or  a  belief  to  go  beyond  the  limits  of  our  habits  and  try some  new sexual beliefs.  We  may  feel  fear,  but  fear  can  be  imagination  ebbing  and  flowing  in  the  silence. Is  it  fear  based  on  a  real  danger  or  fear  of  doing  something  outside  of  what  we  have  become accustomed?”

Excerpt: The Relevance of Kabir

“Humans are mortal. So are ideas. An idea needs propagation as much as a plant needs watering. Otherwise both will wither and die.”
― B.R. Ambedkar

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